Why I Moved to the Philippines
Many people have asked me why I moved from the United States to the Philippines. Depending on the amount of time I have the response can either be a short one or a long one.
We have some time here so let’s go into the long explantion on why I moved to the Philippines. Moving to the Philippines is never a decision that should be taken lightly. Going back to the short answer, I could easily say I made the move to the Philippines because of the love of a girl but actually it was far more involved than that. There were several factors that I influenced my decision to moving to the Philippines.
The first factor was where I was at that point in my life. I had gotten a divorce over five years before, so this meeting a girl thing wasn’t a case of going on the rebound or starting a relationship too soon.
Another factor was that all my kids were grown and had their own lives. Nobody was holding me to stay here and in a sens nobody really needed me to be around on a twenty-four hour basis.
“To me living with regret on not making a decision is worse than finding out your decision was the wrong one.”
One of the more important factors was at my age, there was the fear of living with regret. I didn’t want to be that guy in the nursing home, sitting there wondering what could have happen had I gone to the Philippines but I was too scared to do it. I felt it would be easier to live with the idea of trying and failing than living with the idea of regret. For me the worst case was tha at least I got a trip to a foreign country out of it.
Another factor in my favor was I started out making small trips to the Philippines, not this one big move without ever going there. Some expats have done just that and while it worked out for some, it didn’t work out for others. I had accumulated enough vacation time I could go to the Philippines for a few weeks then come back and still have my job waiting for me.
My first trip to the Philippines was for about two weeks, and that was just to concentrate on the relationship between the filipina and myself. The second trip was for two months, and it was at this point that I really started to look at the Philippines from the standpoint of someone wanting to live there. After that trip I went back home and began to discuss the idea with my family and begin the process of preparing to move to the Philippines. The video below pretty much sums up what were the factors in my decision to say, “Yes, I am moving to the Philippines”.
Making a decision to move to the Philippines is never something that you make overnight. To important ideas you should have figured out before moving there is what if this relationship doesn’t work out what will I do. Always have a backup, some money stashed away in case you have to fold up the tent and move camp overnight. Breaking up is never easy to do, and believe in the Philippine culture, where there is no divorce laws, it is even harder.
There are a lot of horror stories of expats who moved to the Philippines and things did not work out but didn’t have any escape plan. Yes, there are some happy endings but like the rest of the world, there are more heartbreaks so prepare for the worst and I hope nothing but the best for you.